For Sentimental Sunday, I have chosen to share a letter that my Mom wrote not long after her father died for her brother to read at the funeral. I believe that this letter gives an insight into my Mom that she chose not to show too often.
As a little background, my Grandfather Doerflinger died January 1st, 1990. His passing occurred only a few months after I was born.
I’ve typed the letter her exactly as it was written in the letter. Each misspelling, each grammatical error, and each run-on sentence is of my Mom’s doing.
Daddy,
I have asked Larry to say a few words on my behalf. I wanted so badly to be with you. I know that you will rest well, surrounded by your loved ones. It must be like coming home.
I’m so very happy that Elyse could spend a few precious moments with her grandpa. I know that you and Mom will be watching over her. She will grow up knowing you as I do, and a part of you, as well as your name will continue to live through her.
Daddy, I miss you and mom so very much, but I have many cherished memories and they help to fill the void left by your passing. One of the truly finest days of my life was spent with you and mom in your last visit at the hospital. I know it was a catharsis for you both, and affirmation of your feelings for one another. I witnessed love, tenderness and caring for those who have been life mates through the good and bad. You both knew your time was short, but you gave Mom the peace she needed to begin her journey. I will never forget that afternoon, each time I think of it I’m filled with such love for my parents.
I know that your family was always first and foremost in your life, but you leave behind so much more. Your creations – artwork with such reality and expression, – your sharp, wicked sense of humor and your keen sense of fair play (You didn’t play favorites with just one of your kids, we were all your favorites in one aspect or the other), the famous Doerflinger generosity, opening your home and hearts to so many through out the years. So many lives were enriched by you, and on behalf of those whose paths you have crossed, I want to thank you.
Please rest easy and in peace, watch over those of us who have yet to join you. Give Mom a kiss for me.
Goodbye Dad,
Sharon